Conflict
This is an excerpt from my weekly email newsletter, The Sunday Love Letter. To get missives like this direct to your inbox, I invite you to sign up here. Back in 2016, when I started writing about The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (I’m against it), a friend of mine who is a well-known DEI consultant…
I meant to write this 6 weeks ago but I was busy doing quicksand things that masquerade as chemically rewarding but in fact are the frenemy of personal momentum. This morning, for example, I got up early to finish this email but since I was up so unbelievably early, I thought I’d also take some of…
I’ve been sending this email every few months for several years, to rally people when we’re most despairing. The world should NOT be as it is, and we do have the power to change it. Here’s some deeply practical advice about how each of us can do that, even in the midst of the worst.…
Trashing is a power struggle triggered by “status dissatisfaction”. There’s a gap between someone’s capabilities and the attention they’re {not} getting
Culture change needs many things, we don’t need to be frustrated with someone for not doing the thing we think is important. WE can do that one thing.
Our attention, efforts and social media comments can and do boost people into the mainstream, so we must avoid boosting the platforms of our opponents.
I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.
And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.
We must distinguish between trashing and critique, and we must steward this in the communities we participate in and the communities we lead.
If I think something is inappropriate, and I don’t want it in my life, that’s all I need to say to take action.I don’t need evidence. I need boundaries.