Conflict
I’ve been sending this email every few months for several years, to rally people when we’re most despairing. The world should NOT be as it is, and we do have the power to change it. Here’s some deeply practical advice about how each of us can do that, even in the midst of the worst.…
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Trashing is a power struggle triggered by “status dissatisfaction”. There’s a gap between someone’s capabilities and the attention they’re {not} getting
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Culture change needs many things, we don’t need to be frustrated with someone for not doing the thing we think is important. WE can do that one thing.
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Our attention, efforts and social media comments can and do boost people into the mainstream, so we must avoid boosting the platforms of our opponents.
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I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.
And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.
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We must distinguish between trashing and critique, and we must steward this in the communities we participate in and the communities we lead.
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If I think something is inappropriate, and I don’t want it in my life, that’s all I need to say to take action.I don’t need evidence. I need boundaries.
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Calling In is a refinement conversation we have with people who have a documented history of doing intersectional justice work — not for people who don’t.
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