Actually, I’m a Huge Fan of Gatekeeping

By Kelly Diels / September 11, 2023 /

This is an excerpt from my weekly email newsletter, The Sunday Love Letter. To get missives like this direct to your inbox, I invite you to sign up here. Back in 2016, when I started writing about The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (I’m against it), a friend of mine who is a well-known DEI consultant…

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Why Online Groups Might Not Be That Great For Us

By Kelly Diels / August 6, 2023 /

I meant to write this 6 weeks ago but I was busy doing quicksand things that masquerade as chemically rewarding but in fact are the frenemy of personal momentum. This morning, for example, I got up early to finish this email but since I was up so unbelievably early, I thought I’d also take some of…

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What To Do In Overwhelmingly Troubled Times

By Kelly Diels / February 27, 2022 /

I’ve been sending this email every few months for several years, to rally people when we’re most despairing. The world should NOT be as it is, and we do have the power to change it. Here’s some deeply practical advice about how each of us can do that, even in the midst of the worst.…

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What if…Trashing is about Redistributing Power in our Community?

By Kelly Diels / March 9, 2020 /

Trashing is a power struggle triggered by “status dissatisfaction”. There’s a gap between someone’s capabilities and the attention they’re {not} getting

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On Culture Breaking and Culture Making. For when you’re frustrated with other change-makers.

By Kelly Diels / August 18, 2019 /

Culture change needs many things, we don’t need to be frustrated with someone for not doing the thing we think is important. WE can do that one thing.

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Business Tips for Culture Makers #624: CAUTION: how your principles and beliefs get leveraged and EXPLOITED to grow the platforms of our opponents

By Kelly Diels / June 24, 2019 /

Our attention, efforts and social media comments can and do boost people into the mainstream, so we must avoid boosting the platforms of our opponents.

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TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

By Kelly Diels / June 27, 2018 / Comments Off on TRUTH: “You Can’t Be Friends With Someone Who Wants Your Life”

I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.

And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.

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Clearing Up Rumours and False Allegations Made By Amy Walsh and Dusti Arab

By Kelly Diels / October 22, 2017 /

I’m under siege, online, because people are saying and writing things about me that are not true. One of the most hurtful and inaccurate things that people have been saying is that I’ve plagiarized or appropriated the work of others. That is absolutely wrong and untrue. These lies aren’t just unfortunate; nor should they be…

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A quick note about critique vs trashing and accountability vs gossip

By Kelly Diels / July 10, 2017 /

We must distinguish between trashing and critique, and we must steward this in the communities we participate in and the communities we lead.

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You are a Person, Not a Court-Room. You Don’t Need Evidence.

By Kelly Diels / January 4, 2017 /

If I think something is inappropriate, and I don’t want it in my life, that’s all I need to say to take action.I don’t need evidence. I need boundaries.

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