My Values + Feminist Business Practices

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My Values +

Culture-Making 

Business Practices

I hold a systemic analysis and my praxis is inclusive and about equity (no white feminism, thankyouverymuch).

I’m here for

love and JUSTICE

not love and light.

I’m more excited about building and sharing power + resources than I am about “empowerment“.

KD – Floral Letters-39

believe...

I believe that empowerment is a personal AND collective strategy that aims to change a collective reality; empowerment is not when one exceptional women gets financially successful but a dehumanizing system stays in place (that’s empowermyth!). Please note, however, that I’m 100% committed to building all of our livelihoods RIGHT NOW, because we deserve to thrive.

I am dreaming of a world where all bodies are cherished, so I enthusiastically support Black Lives Matter and social movements that promote liberation and human flourishing.

I believe that we are all culture makers and that we can use our culture making power deliberately, to create new realities for ourselves and our world.

Here are a few of the ways I try to do that in my own LIFE AND BUSINESS

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Hiring + Money

  • I have a LOT of financial responsibilities — children, elders, extended family — so I need to earn a lot of money. I do this unapologetically
  • I believe in investing in our community which means I hire and contract from within our community, first, and prioritize the hiring of people with non-dominant identities
  • I pay everyone  a living wage -- AT A MINIMUM --and strive to pay everyone as much as is sustainable for the whole organization
  • If people are collaborating with me on a full-time basis to launch a program, I revenue-share with them

Economic Justice

How (and When) I Offer Critique

When I’m critiquing, I strive to name patterns, not people, because

  • This is about systemic change, not changing out individual "bad apples". I want to keep the focus on policies, practices, norms and institutions
  • I’m not here to destroy anyone’s livelihood or build my brand by tearing other people down
  • We are all in the water so we are all wet

If I do critique a person, I will do it in order to document a larger pattern; it will be because they are a mainstream cultural figure who wields significant power in the world; and my critique will take place in long-form (essays, newsletters, blog posts or future books).

Here my guidelines for Critiquing Live People:

  • No gossip. I'm not repeating hearsay or wondering about their childhood wounds or interested in their personal lives (for example). I'm critiquing their public work, platforms, marketing strategies and their social impact
  • I will NOT discuss off-the-record remarks, private correspondence or recordings of private conversations
  • Must have more than 1,000,000 social media followers; have mainstream name recognition; or be the leader of an institution or company whose policies or messaging impact millions of people's lives
    • I'm taking these as indicators of cultural impact. At this level of reach (and, presumably, revenue), this person is likely to be significant, culturally, and therefore an appropriate topic for cultural consideration
  • I must disclose any apparent conflicts of interest

Because my focus is on patterns, not people, I will not comment on online controversies nor will I participate in "public humiliation spectacles"* on social media.

  • I especially do not enter a live fray when I don't possess a highly specific, detailed understanding of the events (I'm looking for timelines and facts, not editorializing or rhetoric). I'm not going to allow myself to be co-opted or weaponized because I lack full information

* My thanks to Dr.Christine Marie for the language of "public humiliation spectacle" and "media misinformation/misrepresentation campaigns"

Here are my Guidelines for Commenting on Tragic Events:

  • I am not a newspaper. I cannot publish or comment on all things and no one should be obliged to
  • I strive to only comment on events where I have 'skin in the game'. I'm Canadian, so I don't have 'skin in the game' to comment on US politics -- and often, when Canadians comment on US culture/politics, we often end up acting smug and erasing our own failings from view
  • I specifically don't comment on mass shootings in the US because
    1. Again, I have no skin in the game
    2. Because I'm not a citizen, I have no ability to influence US legislators
    3. Research shows that the more media attention the massacre gets, the higher the likelihood that there will be a copycat shooting within 7 days. My silence is an attempt at harm-reduction

Solidarity, Self-Preservation,
and Culture-Making

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NEXT COHORT: JANUARY 2023

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to grow a future in which we all flourish
Are you in?

the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers TOMORROW...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that today is the day :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥⁠
⁠⁠
We Are The Culture Makers is self-help through a feminist lens, and it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively ⁠
(3) Reshape your self-image and grow your self-confidence so you can MAKE POWER MOVES⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
psssst...Wednesday is the last day to enrol in *We Are The Culture Makers 2023*.⁠
⁠
🔥It's one part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? You can learn more using the link in profile @kelly.diels . ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠ #feministclass #feministtraining #feministworkshop #feministcoaching⁠
I always feel a bit weird about these 'last-call' posts.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Please know this isn't 'fake scarcity' or fake pressure to get you to sign up (I wholeheartedly OPPOSE those tactics). ⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Instead, this is a real deadline: ⁠⁠
the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers is next Thursday, Feb 2...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that this is the week to do that :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
***⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Here's what you get in We Are The Culture Maker:⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥6 group calls⁠ per month -- drop in at either 9am PST or 4pm PST (or both!) on Thursdays⁠⁠ in Weeks 1-3 each month⁠
⁠⁠
🔥 Learn my self-coaching tool, the TRUEX framework, for getting out of shame and into your power -- on the spot, wherever you are⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥3 video lessons each month (and sometimes more) on how to create new realities for yourself (and all of us!) around fraught issues like Power, Time, Money, Body, Likability, Care, Work, Leadership and more⁠⁠
⁠
🔥Weekly Co-Working Sessions⁠ you can drop into so you have time set aside in your schedule to work on projects that truly matter to you⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Weekly, live Guided Meditation sessions to calm your central nervous system and bolster your spirit, taught by yoga breathing & meditation teacher Ntathu Allen⁠ (Find Ntathu at https://www.yogainspires.co.uk and @yogainspiresyou⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Online Mighty Networks group so you can get to know people in the group and make meaningful connections. This space is lovingly & fiercely facilitated by community-builder Trevia Woods⁠. (Find Trevia at https://www.manytreeslifeway.com and @trevia_woods⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
All in all, it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
Good morning. Happy New Year. I am rooting for you. Your dreams and desires and ambitions matter and they are NOT impossible.⁠
⁠
(The oracle Dolly Parton told us so.)⁠
⁠
Re: ambition and likeability.⁠
⁠
For YEARS I have been counselling culture-making women to break up with likability. It's such a critical self-development and culture-making skill that I dedicated an entire, month-long, 4-lesson module in one of my programs to grappling with likability and what a seductive, compelling, hard-to-avoid, BULLSHIT trap it is for women. ⁠
⁠
The pursuit of likability will eat your life and your dreams.⁠
⁠
And it is fruitless, anyways. ⁠
⁠
If you are in a body marked 'other' and actually grow any kind of personal power; if you cultivate your ambition and succeed in bringing a body of work into existence; if you occupy any space of influence or authority; if you have any kind of personal sovereignty and the resources or ability to protect yourself...⁠
⁠
...then the research shows* that you will pay a 'likability penalty'. In other words, people suddenly start perceiving you as less likeable and act accordingly. ⁠
⁠
So. All that swallowing the words we wanted to say, smiling brightly, tamping down our ambitions, playing small, making hostile systems function, and ensuring others feel comfortable when they don't care about our comfort...it was never going to work. It was never going get us where we wanted to go, personally or collectively. WHOLE. FLOURISHING.⁠
⁠
How about we...stop?⁠
⁠
How about we divest of the likeability performance and cultivate our desires, dreams, ambitions, pleasure and rest this year (and always!) instead?⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
#WeAreTheCultureMakers ⁠
#SelfHelpThroughAFeministLens⁠
⁠
* h/t @stefanieoconnell https://www.instagram.com/p/Cmt4ky1hijQ/

the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers TOMORROW...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that today is the day :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥⁠
⁠⁠
We Are The Culture Makers is self-help through a feminist lens, and it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively ⁠
(3) Reshape your self-image and grow your self-confidence so you can MAKE POWER MOVES⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠
psssst...Wednesday is the last day to enrol in *We Are The Culture Makers 2023*.⁠
⁠
🔥It's one part low-cost, online, group coaching...⁠
⁠
🔥One part encouragement circle where we get to know each other and find opportunities to ask for and receive support...⁠
⁠
🔥One part feminist analysis....⁠
⁠
🔥One part tools, strategies + tips for navigating -- and changing -- our lives and world...⁠
⁠
🔥And 100% pure jet fuel.⁠
⁠
Use it to fuel your life, your career, your relationships and your impact.⁠
⁠
Are you in? You can learn more using the link in profile @kelly.diels . ⁠
⁠
love + justice,⁠
Kelly⁠
⁠
⁠ #feministclass #feministtraining #feministworkshop #feministcoaching⁠
I always feel a bit weird about these 'last-call' posts.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Please know this isn't 'fake scarcity' or fake pressure to get you to sign up (I wholeheartedly OPPOSE those tactics). ⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Instead, this is a real deadline: ⁠⁠
the first live group call for We Are The Culture Makers is next Thursday, Feb 2...⁠⁠
⁠⁠
...so if you've been thinking you want to join, this is your loving reminder that this is the week to do that :)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
***⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Here's what you get in We Are The Culture Maker:⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥6 group calls⁠ per month -- drop in at either 9am PST or 4pm PST (or both!) on Thursdays⁠⁠ in Weeks 1-3 each month⁠
⁠⁠
🔥 Learn my self-coaching tool, the TRUEX framework, for getting out of shame and into your power -- on the spot, wherever you are⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥3 video lessons each month (and sometimes more) on how to create new realities for yourself (and all of us!) around fraught issues like Power, Time, Money, Body, Likability, Care, Work, Leadership and more⁠⁠
⁠
🔥Weekly Co-Working Sessions⁠ you can drop into so you have time set aside in your schedule to work on projects that truly matter to you⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Weekly, live Guided Meditation sessions to calm your central nervous system and bolster your spirit, taught by yoga breathing & meditation teacher Ntathu Allen⁠ (Find Ntathu at https://www.yogainspires.co.uk and @yogainspiresyou⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
🔥Online Mighty Networks group so you can get to know people in the group and make meaningful connections. This space is lovingly & fiercely facilitated by community-builder Trevia Woods⁠. (Find Trevia at https://www.manytreeslifeway.com and @trevia_woods⁠)⁠⁠
⁠⁠
All in all, it's a year of radical encouragement meant to help you⁠⁠
(1) unlearn the social conditioning keeping us in self-doubt ⁠⁠
(2) learn the power-building habits that can help you rise -- personally, and collectively.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
In other words: this is about getting out of shame and into power.⁠⁠
⁠⁠
If that sounds like a fit for you, I invite you to sign up with the link in profile @kelly.diels -- and thank you!⁠⁠
⁠⁠
love + justice,⁠⁠
⁠⁠
Kelly⁠⁠