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confessions about “calling in”
Calling In is a refinement conversation we have with people who have a documented history of doing intersectional justice work — not for people who don’t.
The Body, Stored Stress, and The Politics of Resentment
The politics of resentment isn’t about stored stress, but it is about the body. It’s about which bodies deserve rights and resources.
The Patriarchal Promise, Part 1
The Patriarchal Promise means being in the possession of an abundant livelihood, influence, respect, a beautiful subservient woman and her sexuality (or several), and a family. In your sphere, whether it be public or private, you are the authority and you are owed not only respect but deference. (Indeed, when patriarchs express distress because they don’t…
Getting Naked, Getting Paid, and Empowerment AKA It’s NOT Only About Your Intentions
Just because a woman who has what a lot of us want tells us what she does is empowering doesn’t make it so. Discerning between impact and intentions is key.
The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand: A Definition
The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand is an archetype women must comply with to get rights and resources AND a marketing strategy leveraging social status.
“The Perfect Woman” is a form of Violence Against Women
When we encourage or teach other women (or ourselves) to be The Perfect Woman, we are doing harm. The Perfect Woman is a form of violence against women.
I’m Bored with Beauty and Body Love. I’d like to be Body Neutral.
If I don’t hate myself then I don’t struggle to love myself, you know? I don’t want body love. I want to be free to be body neutral.
Ivanka Trump is Calling All White Women
The Trump campaign is using Ivanka’s “feminism,” and the language and promise of women’s liberation to advance and perpetuate injustice and a racist agenda.
On Not Getting It and the Stay-Safe Sequence
The stay-safe sequence isn’t news to black people. This is my husband and my son and I still didn’t get it. I was complicit. No More.
keep your love and light, we want justice
When “Love and Light” is proposed by spiritual leaders as an appropriate response to DEATH and discrimination, I name it for what it is: white privilege.
