Power
Tiny acts of doing-it-differently dislodge the web of cooperation that our unjust culture requires to function – and creates something new instead.
On my website, the first thing you’ll see is the statement: “We are The Culture Makers”. I say this because it’s true. We have the power to create change and to create a just culture. In our interactions with each other, with friends and family, with power and authorities, online, and professionally, in our businesses…
OPPORTUNITY: Instead of letting an unjust culture flow through our mouths and our lives, we can interrupt it — and we can make a new one.
The Fantasy of Being Holiday Fabulous gets in the way of actually having fabulous holidays. So let’s retire it. [H/t Kate Harding’s LIFE ALTERING 2009 essay, The Fantasy of Being Thin]
In order to get access to rights and resources, every woman in our culture has to present herself as saleable, consumable object: we must brand ourselves.
Through their books, coaching institutes, classes, and workshops, men’s rights activists have trained MANY women’s life coaches and “empowerment” leaders.
I know that when I’ve wanted someone else’s life, it made me transactional, strategic, subservient, and sometimes envious. In other words: not a safe friendship or business bet.
And I know that when friends, lovers or colleagues wanted what I had, we always ended in conflict and destruction. Always.
The way we use our time is predetermined and overdetermined by our society and gender roles, and society frames our productivity as “personal choices.”
This photo makes me smile. Admittedly, talking with my hands is perhaps not the most effective way to communicate on the radio.