FLEB: Results

KELLY COLLAGE_Female Empowerment Brand

The Female Lifestyle

Empowerment Brand

(It's not a good thing.)

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What is Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand? ⁠(FLEB)⁠

START HERE → She's The Perfect Woman, in the form of a business...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #1 Fake Authority

Day 1 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #2 Fake Scarcity

Day 2 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #3 Male Approval

Day 3 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #4 Predatory Payment Plans

Day 4 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #5 Weaponized White Femininity

Day 5 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #6 Relentless Positivity and Conflict Avoidance

Day 6 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #7 Re-enforces Gender Binary & Patriarchy

Day 7 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #8 Safe Status Quo Imagery

Day 8 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #9 Social Triggers = Social Conditions

This is Day 9 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #10 Testimonials as Triggers

This is Day 10 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand...

This page includes my definition of The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand + all my essays and blog posts explaining why it’s bad for women, our businesses and our culture.

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Definition:

A "perfect woman" archetype must comply with and embody in order to be deserving of rights and resources

AND

A marketing strategy that leverages social status and white privilege to create authority over other women.

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In Our Culture

Every Woman Is a Brand

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The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. An introduction.

Somewhere, on the edge of consciousness, there is what I call a mythical norm, which each one of us within our hearts knows “that is not me.” In America, this norm is usually defined as white, thin, male, young, heterosexual, Christian, and financially secure. -...

Featured posts

Ixtapa, Mexico + John Rawls + No Pedi. Unthinkable now, right?

#tbt Toes in the Sand but NO PEDI. Also, The Beauty Myth then and now.

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Feminism, Femininity and The Swinging Pendulum. A Question for You.

The Context for The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brrand

Not Enough Compensation in the World

The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand: We Can Do Better

What is The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand and 'empowermyth'? It’s go-go entrepreneur-ism without the caveat that most women entrepreneurs start micro-businesses which generate subsistence-level revenues rather than untrammeled abundance. It’s yoga ...

March 25 2016

#tbt Toes in the Sand but NO PEDI. Also, The Beauty Myth then and now.

Ixtapa, Mexico + John Rawls + No Pedi. Unthinkable now, right? It was the 90s - before Instagram, before I even had a cell phone. ...

A Quick Note About Ambition and Women

There's a very telling Quaker saying that goes like this: That friend speaks my mind. That's what this note it is. A nod to Lianne Raymond, a ...

March 23 2016

Why I’m Writing About The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand

I. This sketch is part of my series on The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. (It starts here.) The reason I'm researching and writing these essays ...

Five Egregious Internet Marketing No-Nos

Overall: consciously refuse to perpetuate or replicate in your marketing and sales funnels the authoritarian, predatory, oppressive and abusive dynamics you want to disrupt in ...
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February 11 2016

Feminism, Femininity and The Swinging Pendulum. A Question for You.

AKA Blame Feminism    This essay is part 3 of my work on The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand.  Part 1 is an intro/definition of The Female ...
The Context for The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brrand

January 25 2016

Not Enough Compensation in the World

A Rather Long Note on the Cultural Context of  The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand AKA part 2 We were at an elaborate, joyous, celebratory meal. One ...

January 4 2016

The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. An introduction.

Somewhere, on the edge of consciousness, there is what I call a mythical norm, which each one of us within our hearts knows “that is ...

November 27 2015

Care is a 4-letter word. So is help.

This week I asked a question of my Twitter and Facebook peeps: Do you feel pressure to be upbeat and positive? There were so many answers: ...

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your life-changing, culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to bring something new to the world
Are you in?

A word. (And an excerpt from something that's dropping VERY soon 🔥)
Some of this was news to me but go Lola go!
This is my daughter Sophie and I at Lola’s graduation tonight. I cannot get my center part centered to save my life. But we give these glasses life.
Culture Making (aka Thought Leadership) Means Speaking *Their* Language⁠
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Culture Makers and Thought Leaders have a Language Dilemma and it is getting in the way of our work in the world.⁠
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Here's the invisible barrier in our IP & thought leadership:⁠
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We are practitioners. We are in mastery. We are in love with our subject matter. ⁠
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And so we speak Expert. ⁠
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We speak Nerd. ⁠
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We forget how to speak People.⁠
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And if there's not a bridge between those two languages, our people won't be able to hear us, find us or understand that we've got things that will help.⁠
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Because we're speaking a different language. ⁠
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And so we need to understand what the person --who we want to influence or who wants to learn from us-- wants, in their own words. ⁠
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We need to understand what THEY think the problem is (especially if we've come to a different conclusion).⁠
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We need to understand what it is they're trying to learn. ⁠
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We need to know what's going on in their life. ⁠
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We need to know the words that fall out of their mouth and then start using them, ourselves. ⁠
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We need to know intimately and forensically the person we're trying to influence or who wants to be influenced by our systems of thought.⁠
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And when we're over here in love with our subject matter, we don't speak that language anymore. ⁠
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We speak Expert. ⁠
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We have to remember how to speak People. ⁠
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#BridgeTheLanguageGap #ThoughtLeadership #ThoughtLeader #SpeakTheirLanguage #IP #IntellectualProperty #MeaningfulWork #BodyOfWork #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
#CultureMakersLanguageDilemma #Externalize #GetYourIdeasOutOfYourHeadAndIntoTheWorld #PutTheThoughtsBackInThoughtLeadership
Most of the people doing the *real* thought leadership work - ⁠
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the ones in the mix with us, developing new practices, processes, ideas, solutions and challenging industry norms --⁠
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would cringe at the idea of calling themselves a thought leader.⁠
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Because the dominant narrative around 'thought leadership' is about positioning, posturing and clout-chasing.⁠
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But that, IMHO, is fake thought leadership. That's about manufacturing authority rather than earning it with a robust, methodologized, coherent body of work. ⁠
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(No wonder we cringe.)⁠
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True thought leadership -- culture making! -- is about so much more than just standing on a stage or topping Google searches. ⁠
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True thought leadership is about externalizing your ideas into a meaningful, systematic body of work. ⁠
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Let's get our ideas out of heads and into the world --⁠
And let's put the thoughts back in thought leadership. ⁠
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#ThoughtLeadership #Externalize #MeaningfulWork #BuildYourBodyOfWork #WeAreTheCultureMakers #FakeThoughtLeader