FLEB: Results

KELLY COLLAGE_Female Empowerment Brand

The Female Lifestyle

Empowerment Brand

(It's not a good thing.)

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What is Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand? ⁠(FLEB)⁠

START HERE → She's The Perfect Woman, in the form of a business...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #1 Fake Authority

Day 1 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #2 Fake Scarcity

Day 2 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #3 Male Approval

Day 3 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #4 Predatory Payment Plans

Day 4 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #5 Weaponized White Femininity

Day 5 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #6 Relentless Positivity and Conflict Avoidance

Day 6 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #7 Re-enforces Gender Binary & Patriarchy

Day 7 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #8 Safe Status Quo Imagery

Day 8 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand (FLEB).⁠⠀ If...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #9 Social Triggers = Social Conditions

This is Day 9 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand...
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FLEB Marketing Tactic #10 Testimonials as Triggers

This is Day 10 of How To Spot a Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand...

This page includes my definition of The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand + all my essays and blog posts explaining why it’s bad for women, our businesses and our culture.

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Definition:

A "perfect woman" archetype must comply with and embody in order to be deserving of rights and resources

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A marketing strategy that leverages social status and white privilege to create authority over other women.

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In Our Culture

Every Woman Is a Brand

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The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. An introduction.

Somewhere, on the edge of consciousness, there is what I call a mythical norm, which each one of us within our hearts knows “that is not me.” In America, this norm is usually defined as white, thin, male, young, heterosexual, Christian, and financially secure. -...

Featured posts

Ixtapa, Mexico + John Rawls + No Pedi. Unthinkable now, right?

#tbt Toes in the Sand but NO PEDI. Also, The Beauty Myth then and now.

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Feminism, Femininity and The Swinging Pendulum. A Question for You.

The Context for The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brrand

Not Enough Compensation in the World

July 22 2016

Ivanka Trump is Calling All White Women

Watching Ivanka Trump speak at the RNC last week, I thought ohhhhhhhhh I get it. Racism + empowerment for overwhelmed white women is Donald Trump's ...
keep your love and light, we want justice

July 9 2016

keep your love and light, we want justice

Dr. Reverend Martin Luther King Jr was a spiritual leader who talked about love and dreams AND spoke out fiercely and unceasingly against violence and ...

June 26 2016

Business Tip for Culture Makers #626: Reconsider Your Payment Plans because Charging Extra for Payment Plans Can Be Exploitative

I’m looking around at our empowerment spaces at the payment plans being offered and I’m seeing some arguably predatory practices. In keeping with our project ...

June 17 2016

the link between our buying habits and our vote

Once upon a time, when I was doing a round of shadow boxing with my inner critic, a blogging comrade + beloved champion of mine ...

May 30 2016

Liking Someone Can Be Terrible Information

There was a guy I went to high school with. He wasn't popular per se but he was kind of badass in high school. Smart ...

May 21 2016

on the abuse of reciprocity and women

Reciprocity seems so lovely. You share, I share. You offer, I reciprocate. Fairness for all! Reciprocity is fundamentally about justice. I'm talking about it like ...

May 18 2016

On the ‘Mental Triggers’ of Online Marketing, The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand, Assessing Who Deserves Your Money, and Why We Should Be Skeptical of Makeover Stories

Jeff Walker's launch formula - taught in his best-selling book, Launch and his course, Product Launch Formula - has had a profound impact on online marketing. ...

April 21 2016

Pursuing Work-Life Balance Preserves the Status Quo

I have never been enthusiastic about work-life balance. It has always seemed to me that achieving work-life balance is one more thing woman are supposed to do in ...

April 14 2016

Not Every Man is a Patriarch. Not Every Patriarch is a Man.

I talk a lot about how personal beauty is used as a marketing tool by The Female Lifestyle Empowerment Brand. Everyone's gonna think I have ...
women are not a problem

April 13 2016

Women Are Not a Problem to Be Fixed

Our culture's base assumption about women is that we are a problem. At school, our bodies are a distraction and keep boys and men from ...

Every week, I send you a

Sunday Love Letter

I write them so that…

  1. You remember your life-changing, culture-making power
  2. You have the inspiration + tools you need to bring something new to the world
Are you in?

A word. (And an excerpt from something that's dropping VERY soon 🔥)
Some of this was news to me but go Lola go!
This is my daughter Sophie and I at Lola’s graduation tonight. I cannot get my center part centered to save my life. But we give these glasses life.
Culture Making (aka Thought Leadership) Means Speaking *Their* Language⁠
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Culture Makers and Thought Leaders have a Language Dilemma and it is getting in the way of our work in the world.⁠
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Here's the invisible barrier in our IP & thought leadership:⁠
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We are practitioners. We are in mastery. We are in love with our subject matter. ⁠
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And so we speak Expert. ⁠
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We speak Nerd. ⁠
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We forget how to speak People.⁠
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And if there's not a bridge between those two languages, our people won't be able to hear us, find us or understand that we've got things that will help.⁠
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Because we're speaking a different language. ⁠
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And so we need to understand what the person --who we want to influence or who wants to learn from us-- wants, in their own words. ⁠
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We need to understand what THEY think the problem is (especially if we've come to a different conclusion).⁠
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We need to understand what it is they're trying to learn. ⁠
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We need to know what's going on in their life. ⁠
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We need to know the words that fall out of their mouth and then start using them, ourselves. ⁠
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We need to know intimately and forensically the person we're trying to influence or who wants to be influenced by our systems of thought.⁠
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And when we're over here in love with our subject matter, we don't speak that language anymore. ⁠
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We speak Expert. ⁠
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We have to remember how to speak People. ⁠
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#BridgeTheLanguageGap #ThoughtLeadership #ThoughtLeader #SpeakTheirLanguage #IP #IntellectualProperty #MeaningfulWork #BodyOfWork #WeAreTheCultureMakers⁠
#CultureMakersLanguageDilemma #Externalize #GetYourIdeasOutOfYourHeadAndIntoTheWorld #PutTheThoughtsBackInThoughtLeadership
Most of the people doing the *real* thought leadership work - ⁠
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the ones in the mix with us, developing new practices, processes, ideas, solutions and challenging industry norms --⁠
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would cringe at the idea of calling themselves a thought leader.⁠
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Because the dominant narrative around 'thought leadership' is about positioning, posturing and clout-chasing.⁠
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But that, IMHO, is fake thought leadership. That's about manufacturing authority rather than earning it with a robust, methodologized, coherent body of work. ⁠
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(No wonder we cringe.)⁠
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True thought leadership -- culture making! -- is about so much more than just standing on a stage or topping Google searches. ⁠
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True thought leadership is about externalizing your ideas into a meaningful, systematic body of work. ⁠
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Let's get our ideas out of heads and into the world --⁠
And let's put the thoughts back in thought leadership. ⁠
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#ThoughtLeadership #Externalize #MeaningfulWork #BuildYourBodyOfWork #WeAreTheCultureMakers #FakeThoughtLeader